displacement

I think that if we are not careful, we put our own intentions onto other people.  It is like a lover that accuses you of cheating when you're not.  Most likely, that person is the one doing the cheating.  When someone starts an argument that states that you are trying to hurt them, most likely it is them trying to do the hurting. I have found too much pride in myself to be baited into a situation like that.  I will not give anyone power over me again.  I look to control no one but myself.  I also look to no one to control me.

Find your happiness and know that I release you to it.  If you're ever not happy, my shoulder is here no matter what.  Just remember, we have no one to blame but ourselves for where we are in life.

If your happiness happens to be near me, then I will smile in the warmth that you radiate.